Keep doing your thing and being who you are and not picking a fucking side if you are attracted to both genders, multiple genders, whatever! We love you and you have earned your letter in the giant acronym of non-straightness.
Being in a violent relationship is not something to be ashamed of. I want to write that over and over. I want write it on billboards. It is something you can grow from. It can, with time, lead you down a path of self-discovery.