Sexual Healing: The Magic of Using Orgasm for Manifestation

‘Sexual Healing’ is a monthly column written by Lauren Fleishman. Focusing on often overlooked and, at times, taboo sex topics, Lauren takes an explorative approach to the art of getting it on.

There’s a reason we like to fuck.

Sexual energy is one of, if not the most, powerful forces on our planet. Without it, none of us would be here right now. Much like the human experience, there’s something carnal yet mystical about the act. Conventional knowledge teaches us the mechanics. We know the names of our parts, we can feel the difference between fucking/having sex/making love and for the creatively advanced (or the pro porn watcher), we know various positions that keep it “fun.” But did you know that sex can be spiritual and orgasm, specifically, can be used to manifest?

Okay. Stop for a second. This is where I ask you to open your mind – and as much as you think you know about sex, just go with me. Truly a cynic at heart, I inwardly cringe every time I use the word manifest – it feels like some password to an annoying spiritual cult. I also laugh intrinsically at the idea of fucking yourself into manifestations including but not limited to common collective dreams such as fame, fortune, freedom or wealth. Don’t you have to also work for those things?

But the more I researched to this topic, the more I learned about ankh, sex transmutation, tantra and kundalini energy. The Egyptians used sexual energy to gain higher consciousness and to harness strength and vitality. And the Egyptians are smart af. They are the OG’s of well… Everything. I mean, they invented the pyramids, writing, black ink, the plough, the calendar, make-up, and clocks.

Little known fact: They also practiced Sex Magic.

“Sex Magic” is a spiritual practice that transmutes sexual desire into healing and allows the manifestation of tangible effects in the physical world. Napolean Hill’s self-help classic, Think and Grow Rich, dedicates an entire chapter called “Sex Transmutation” to this. The thought is that if we can pair sex transmutation with intent (focused thought), then we can become powerful enough to cultivate and channel sexual energy into the tangible physical things that we want. But how?

On a physical level, after you orgasm it activates the pleasure center of the brain releasing endorphins such as oxytocin, which we know makes us feel euphoric, boosts the immune system, and makes us feel bonded to our partner. The University of Groningen in the Neverlands did a study and found that during orgasm, numerous parts of the brain, including the Amygdala, temporarily shut down and/or function much less than normal. The Amygdala is the region of the brain responsible for emotional control, which from a more poetic perspective means that during an orgasm we’re in a state of surrender to the experience. In French, they call this, “La Petit Mort” which means, “the little death” in relation to the brief loss or weakening of consciousness after orgasm.

While those physical things are happening, on an energetic level, it is thought that during surrender to orgasm, the energetic body reaches a sort of receptivity. All energy channels (chakras or meridians) are fully open. What appears to be “a death” is really an alignment occurring between ego and identity, a blending of the physical (body) and the non-physical (mind and soul) aspects of you. So, orgasm = loss of aspects of consciousness = relief of suffering = temporary “enlightenment”.

What happens to our sexual energy after we orgasm?

Hindu, Egyptian and Tantra dogma believe that after orgasm, energy ordinarily moves up the spine and out the top of the head directly into the eighth chakra – which is two feet above your head, what yogis refer to as “your higher self.” The sexual energy – or the concentrated life-force energy – is then dissipated and lost into the ether. The concept is similar to discharging a battery into a ground wire. Once exiting the battery, the energy is no longer in the battery and so it is gone forever… Or until we are lost in the next cycle of lust, foreplay, sex, temporary enlightenment, bonding, separation – repeat, ad nauseam. If we extend the metaphor slightly, seeing mother earth as representing the female essence, it could be thought that our inefficient misuse of the sexual process is a reflection of our inefficient misuse of earth.

Egyptians believe that in order to improve upon an inefficient system, sexual energy and orgasms must be controlled in a circuit known as the “ankh”, which is an historically debated term, but for the purposes of this article, think of it as a symbol signifying a road map to guiding your sexual energy through your body into a more efficient use of thought, focus and energy – ala manifestation.

Like women living in a patriarchal society, perhaps sexuality is a bit misunderstood and misused. If you are willing to venture into the empirical to consider learning about ancient spiritual practices and modalities on your own, then here are some steps on how to perform sex magic alone or with a partner:

Pre-sex

1. Create a space where you are alone with your thoughts. Maybe it’s during your meditation time or if you don’t meditate, try and set aside an hour where you really tune in to your self. Light incense or a candle. Chill out in nature or do it during a bath. Be in a safe, quiet space that calms you. This is anytime pre-sex, alone time.

2. Set an intention. Do this out loud prior to sex with your partner or alone, silently to yourself if you don’t want to scare your partner by telling them that you’re doing “sex magic.” Reflect on what you’d like to create in your life – work, family, intimate relationship with yourself or with your partner.

Don’t give up if it’s not an immediate answer. Give yourself time to become clear. Ask yourself why you want these things, be honest with yourself and feel the feeling of how worthy you are of these desires and how good it will feel to receive.

During Sex:

3. Consciously breathe. Breath is your prana or life force. It’s the first thing you take when you are born and the last thing to go when you leave. Breath allows energy to flow effortlessly throughout your body and between partners. Breath assists in channeling your sexual energy in the sex magic process. If you are with your partner and your bodies are intertwined, breathe together in a synchronized way.

4. To raise your energy, breathe your energy from your sexual center (base of your spine) up to your crown center (top of the head) on the inhalation and back down and out again on the exhalation. Imagine a loop of circular energy flowing. Keep breathing while circulating your energy within yourself as well as joining the loop with your partner. To practice more in depth, become familiar with Kundalini breathing and Ankh rotation.

5. Allow orgasm energy to flow consciously. While riding the wave of orgasmic flow, call in your intention of what you’d like to create in your life. Stay in that flow as long as you like and can.

Voilà, there you have it. Sex magic!

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