The Art of Phone Sex

I tried phone sex for the first time a few weeks ago, and to be honest it was mind-blowingly good. I got off, my man got off, and afterwards we bonded in celebrating the fearless exploration of another sexual realm. Phone sex is the perfect way to keep each other satisfied from afar, and just like anything, once you do it a few times… it’ll become a normal part of your routine and you won’t have to dread going away on business trips anymore. Here are a few major things to remember when trying phone sex for the first time. It should be about experimentation, pleasure, and enjoyment… remember to have fun with it!

Don’t force it

If you’re stressed out or distracted it’s not going to work… so don’t force it. The best phone sex should commence naturally, in a relaxed state of mind. Find a time when you’re both in bed with no outside distractions… you can gently guide the conversation there with a simple “I miss you baby, I can’t wait to be with you.” or “I had a sexy dream about you last night…” If he’s feeling the same way, he’ll pick up on your signals and the conversation will instinctively get dirtier…

Listen to each other

This will not only help you stay in the moment, it will also help your imagination run wild if you’re really paying close attention to every dirty detail. It will also help you gauge your partners comfort level… maybe you haven’t really explored the dirty talk yet, that’s ok. Listening will nourish your responses – you’ll start reciprocating without giving it much thought, it will just come out naturally.

Cultivate your dirty talk

Remember, dirty talk is a language… it can be learned by anyone. Think back to a past sexual experiences with your partner…What really gets them off? Do they like oral, tongue, anal, or do they like it when you touch yourself? Everybody has a weakness; the trick with phone sex is to pinpoint it, and verbalize it. If you’re not sure where to start, here are a few sure-fire ways to strike the mood: “I’m under the covers…naked,” “Are you alone?,” “I miss you baby, I get so horny thinking about you.” You can also try describing a dirty fantasy you had about them, or reliving a steamy experience you shared together (a great way to bounce the conversation back and forth).

Use your imagination

Phone sex is a really good way to exercise your imagination – close your eyes, listen to every word, and imagine that you are actually doing whatever it is you wish you were doing. If you’re talking about giving him a BJ, suck on your fingers and imagine that he’s there (the sucking sound will really get him off).

Have fun with it

One thing I can’t stress enough. It’s ok to laugh. It’s cute to giggle and express if you feel a little silly dirty talking into a phone. Odds are, he probably feels the same way, it will take some of the pressure off if you can laugh at yourself, then get right back into it.

L’Agent Goodies…